[International Wedding Example Introduction] A Japanese-Style Wedding for International Couples
I'm Noriko Fujita, a bridal producer with 26 years of experience.
With the global pandemic gradually easing and more foreigners traveling from overseas, we're seeing a rapid increase in international weddings after several years. As globalization continues to progress, there's no doubt that the number of weddings in Japan by international couples will continue to rise.
Given the unique backgrounds of the couple from different countries, there is a particular demand for weddings that not only encapsulate the essence of Japan but also incorporate elements that reflect the traditions of each partner's homeland. In this article, I will share examples of international weddings that I, Noriko Fujita, have curated as a bridal producer with 26 years of experience. This examples is from Autumn 2022, highlighting the diversity and beauty of cross-cultural unions celebrated in Japan.
a bridal producer,Noriko Fujita
Noriko Fujita
26 years of experience as a bridal producer. Produced the first wedding in Naoshima Island, The Takamatsu Castle, The Ritsurin Garden, etc. Producer of unique venues that organized many parties and many events for state guests that create a sense of specialness and local characteristics in historical buildings and cultural facilities. 《About Noriko Fujita》
All the way from the other side of the globe, a wonderful connection!
An inquiry from a Japanese man (originally from Kagawa Prefecture)
"I had originally planned to have the wedding in Mexico, but last year my father-in-law passed away due to COVID-19. Now, during our next visit back home, my wife and I would like to have a Shinto-style Japanese wedding ceremony in my hometown of Takamatsu. We need to confirm the entry restrictions (regarding the spouse visa). P.S. My wife and I have enjoyed watching your YouTube videos; they've been very informative."
Reply from Producer Noriko Fujita
About the couple
Groom
Japanese, residing in Mexico City, Mexico. During his teens, he moved to Texas, USA, and traveled within the USA before settling in Mexico. Currently, he is a manager at the most prestigious Japanese restaurant group in Mexico. He speaks Japanese fluently, as well as English and Spanish.
Bride
Mexican, residing in Mexico City, Mexico.
She is an only child, and both her parents passed away due to COVID-19. She has no experience visiting Japan.
She speaks both English and Spanish fluently but is currently studying Japanese.
Requests for the Wedding
Location
Historical sites such as Takamatsu Castle, Tamamo Park, and Hiyokukan
(places typical of Takamatsu City, Kagawa Prefecture).
Style
A traditional Japanese ceremony (Shinto ceremony) wearing traditional Japanese attire (montsuki hakama and shiromuku).
Since we've already had Western-style photos taken in Mexico, we wish to capture photos in Japanese attire to reflect the essence of Japan.
Details
The groom is a Japanese person residing abroad and the bride is a foreigner.
We would like to hold an international wedding and take the groom’s temporary return to Japan as an opportunity to hold the wedding locally. The plan is to have a family-only wedding with close relatives, but given the rare occasion of returning home, there's a possibility that a few friends, such as childhood friends, might attend.
Wedding Day Report
Amidst the pandemic, there was a lot of anxiety leading up to their return to Japan, but thankfully, the couple safely arrived according to the planned schedule. Their arrival was just one week before the wedding. Thanks to the scheduling arrangements made in advance, fittings, hair and makeup rehearsals, and meetings all proceeded smoothly. Given it was the couple’s first time in Japan together and a visit to the groom’s hometown, we coordinated the schedule with enough flexibility so that wedding preparations go smoothly and quality time with friends and family can be taken.
International weddings for international couples (overview)
Wedding venue
Takamatsu Castle, Tamamo Park, Hiunkaku (Shinto wedding ceremony)
Banquet venue
JR Clement Hotel Takamatsu
Number of guests
Approximately 40 people
The initial request was for a family wedding consisting of the wedding ceremony and a photo wedding.
→【Change of Plan】
"Photo wedding + wedding ceremony + dinner party" plan.
Many friends attended both the wedding ceremony and the banquet.
Friends of the parents also came to Tamamo Park to catch a glimpse of the international wedding..
Bride and groom + 7 members of the groom's family + 14 friends + about 15 friends of the parents
Morning of the Ceremony
On the day of a wedding produced by Fairy Tale, it is always sunny. The producer, Ms. Fujita, is very lucky with the weather. Even on this day when the arrival of a typhoon was a concern, the weather was indeed blessed.
From early morning, preparations for the bride began at historical sites such as Takamatsu Castle, Tamamo Park, and Hiunkaku. The bride is a Mexican who is visiting Japan for the first time. Of course, wearing traditional Japanese clothing is also a first-time experience for her.
Once the preparations were complete, the groom and bride both signed the oath and practiced reciting it together, preparing for the ceremony. The foreign bride adeptly wrote her name in vertical script with a brush, a task that even some Japanese find challenging. The recitation of the oath, a difficult task even for Japanese speakers, became a heartwarming joint effort as the Japanese groom led the way, and both recited it together. It was truly a delightful sight, seeing the two work together in harmony.
Photo wedding in a Japanese garden before the castle wedding ceremony
The pre-wedding photo shoot took place at historical sites such as the Takamatsu Castle ruins, Tamamo Park, and at the gardens within. The Japanese garden where feudal lords once resided provided the perfect backdrop for the Japanese-style wedding photos that they both desired.
Adding the highly popular traditional Japanese boat plan to the photo wedding shoot is a fantastic idea. The elegant boat ride, reminiscent of feudal lords and princesses, will undoubtedly make for stunning and iconic shots, perfect for the highlight moments of the location photos.
A picturesque shot against the backdrop of the Sakura Goten (Cherry Blossom Gate), which was restored in 2022 for the first time in about 80 years
Takamatsu Castle Ruins and Tamamo Park is truly an iconic location for getting married at a castle. The groom, who has spent a long time living abroad, found this location on our Fairy Tale website and was determined to have his wedding in Japan!
Having a Shinto Wedding Ceremony at a Japanese Castle
The wedding ceremony venue was the historic Takamatsu Castle ruins, Tamamo Park, and Hiunkaku (an Important Cultural Property ).
Not only family and relatives but also many friends were able to attend the ceremony. Typically, in a traditional Shinto ceremony, only blood relatives are considered appropriate guests. However, in Shinto ceremonies produced by Fairy Tale, we welcome the attendance of not only relatives but also friends, embracing the idea of celebrating love and union with a broader circle of loved ones.
The Shinto wedding ceremony is solemnly conducted by the chief priest of the Takamatsu branch shrine of Izumo Taisha, a shrine famous for its god of matchmaking.
Live gagaku music will reverberate throughout the gardens of Tamamo Park, the historic site of Takamatsu Castle, and the interior of Hiunkaku, an important cultural property. The traditional Japanese music performance will add to the "Japaneseness" of the venue
The bride and groom carefully follow each and every step of the Shinto wedding ceremony etiquette.
Thanks to the rehearsal they had before the ceremony, the foreign bride's manners were very beautiful.
The Japanese groom led the reading of the vows, but when it came time for the couple to read out their names, the foreign bride also read her own name in the Japanese style.
The Japanese groom at times seemed to be concerned about his foreign bride, and the couple looked very harmonious.
When time to exchange rings, the bride finally smiled. Seeing him face to face must have given her a sense of relief.
After the ritual, a " Citizen Wedding Ceremony " was held, in which the couple recited their vows in their own words.
Reunited with friends and family after the ceremony
It had been several years since the groom last returned to Japan, and it seemed like a long time since he had spent time with family and relatives. Taking commemorative photos together is the best part of any special day.
They chose a location appropriate for a castle wedding and took a family group photo.
After the ceremony, the venue moved to JR Hotel Clement Takamatsu, a one-minute walk from Tamamo Park, a historic site of Takamatsu Castle, for a banquet.
Rather than a wedding anniversary dinner, it was more like a class reunion!
Since the groom was meeting up with some friends for the first time in decades, per the couple’s request, we set up a casual banquet style.
The particularities of foreigners holding wedding ceremonies in Japan
Being in touch with Japanese culture and wearing a kimono
For the photo wedding, the bride wore a colorful uchikake.
The first time she put on a kimono was when she tried one on at a costume shop after arriving to Japan a week prior, but it seems she had done some research on Japanese clothing before coming, and chose a red colorful uchikake with a classic pattern without hesitation.
She had also researched how to pose for photos in a kimono, which is quite difficult even for Japanese people. She is beautiful even down to her fingertips.
A fusion of Japanese and Western styles, while still retaining the foreign feel
"It's beautiful for a Japanese bride to have a Japanese hairstyle (wig), but I'm a foreigner and I'm not sure if it would suit me," she said during the hair and makeup rehearsal.
Her hair was put up and a bold, slightly larger fresh flower (Phalaenopsis orchid) was added. The voluminous head accessory suited her well-defined facial features.
When the cotton hat was presented to her, she asked "What does this mean?", showing her interest in understanding Japanese culture.
"In ancient Japan, there was a custom of women not wanting to be seen, and the cotton hat is a remnant of that custom. It is an item that is only worn at weddings and symbolizes the modest Japanese woman," we explained, and she said, "I'd love to try it."
For the wedding ceremony, she wore a cotton hat with a Western hairstyle and fresh flower (Phalaenopsis orchid) on her head.
Requesting an Interpreter
If either the bride or groom does not understand Japanese well, we recommend that you have an attendant nearby who can interpret. No matter how well your partner speaks Japanese, unexpected situations can occur on the day of the wedding. Communication is important for the smooth sailing of any wedding ceremony.
International couples holding their wedding in Japan! (Summary)
- 1. Choose a “Japanese” location.
- If an international couple is going to have a wedding in Japan, then a location with a long history, high cultural significance, and elegant, delicate, and charming traditional Japanese beauty would be ideal!
- 2. Advance Preparations are particularly important.
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- For couples living overseas
After arriving in Japan, make sure to schedule all the preparations and arrangements up until the wedding. - For couples living overseas or in Japan
Make sure to clearly communicate any customs, manners, dietary restrictions, religious views, etc.
- For couples living overseas
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- 3. Choose a venue (planner) with ample experience and international knowledge!
- Ensure that there are no taboos arising from differences in customs, etiquette, or religious beliefs.
It's essential to thoroughly research whether the venue (planner) has experience in accommodating foreigners and what services are available on the wedding day (interpretation, meals, customs, etc.).
- Ensure that there are no taboos arising from differences in customs, etiquette, or religious beliefs.
- 4. Receive guidance from an attendant who is knowledgeable about weddings and can also act as an interpreter!
- An attendant who can interpret will ensure smooth communication and understanding, bridging any cultural or linguistic gaps that may arise during the wedding ceremony. This not only helps the couple and their guests feel more at ease but also enhances the overall experience, allowing everyone to fully appreciate and enjoy the beauty and significance of the occasion.
- 5. Variety of items and one-stop services!
- Different ethnicities may have different body shapes, skin tones, hair, and eye colors, which may not be suitable for traditional Japanese attire designed for Japanese people. Additionally, the hair and makeup styles for foreign brides are often quite different from those for Japanese brides.
Therefore, it's essential to have a wide variety of items available and be offered various services to accommodate these differences.
- Different ethnicities may have different body shapes, skin tones, hair, and eye colors, which may not be suitable for traditional Japanese attire designed for Japanese people. Additionally, the hair and makeup styles for foreign brides are often quite different from those for Japanese brides.
- 6. Manuals don't always apply to international marriages and weddings!
- Unlike typical weddings between Japanese individuals, international weddings may involve issues such as entry visas, spouse visas, or unforeseen circumstances like global pandemics, which may require sudden changes to plans. Choose a venue (planner) that will empathetically handle unexpected events that aren't covered in manuals!
- 7. Incorporate Japanese elements into the presentation!
- If there are many foreign guests, they may appreciate Japanese-style performances. By incorporating elements such as traditional Japanese attire, breaking open the sake barrel (kagamibiraki), or live performances of gagaku (traditional Japanese court music), you can enhance the sense of hospitality even further in a Japanese-style venue.
- 8. Pay attention to photography!
- While preferences may vary based on nationality and individual tastes, compared to shy and reserved Japanese individuals, foreigners tend to place greater emphasis on photography. Make sure to capture stunning photos with attention to posing and locations!
Takamatsu Castle and Tamamo Park Wedding Day Schedule (Summary)
8:30 Photo wedding ① (crested hakama & colored uchikake, western hairstyle) at Tamamo Park Gardens and inside Hiunkaku
9:00 Wedding photo shoot on a Japanese boat
9:30 Dress change (colored kimono → white kimono)
10:00 Photo wedding at Hiunkaku Hall② (family crested hakama & white wedding kimono, western hairstyle)
10:30 Shinto wedding ceremony rehearsal (Chief priest: Miyaji Osuga, chief priest of Izumo Taisha Takamatsu branch shrine)
11:00 Dress change (Western hairstyle with cotton hat)
11:30 Shinto Wedding Ceremony
12:15 Group photos with friends and family
12:30 Photo wedding in Tamamo Park ③ (white wedding kimono, western hairstyle, fresh flowers)
12:45 Change clothes and leave Tamamo Park
13:30 Wedding anniversary dinner party begins at JR Clement Takamatsu
15:30 Close out all schedules
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